Do you hear your inner critic? It’s the voice inside that criticizes you day in, day out?

A voice that only you hear, offering criticisms of self that are not always constructive. In fact, the voice is often destructive.

The thing about your inner critic is that it does not go away. It is simply a part of being human. Some are better than others at coping with this little, but sometimes big, critic. When the voice gets bigger it can increase stress, worry, and doubt—it can even contribute to ongoing anxiety and depression. The good news about this voice is that you can choose to utilize it to your advantage.

Here are some tips on how to tame it in three easy steps.

1. Name your inner critic.

That’s right…give your inner critic a name like you would your child or pet. You may call yours Fanny, George, Asiata, Fred—whatever you’d like. Naming it allows you to better identify its presence, not to separate it from you, rather to notice when and how it shows up.

For example:

  • Does your inner critic voice itself while you are about to fall asleep or right before a big meeting at work?
  • Does it normally doubt your ability to parent? Communicate? Provide?
  • Does it mak